Ladies, we adore our men, but sometimes they can be eejits (yes, I’m reading the Boys of Tommen series and the Irish lingo is rubbing off on me lol). And yes, I am aware that the majority of my readers are female, so see this as an opportunity to share this ‘Relationship Advice for Men’ article with your partner.
I’ve recently landed myself on relationship Instagram, because I’m in a long-distance relationship with my husband and find solace in relatable couple content. That’s what inspired this whole idea.
So, buckle up, and let me tell you what she really wants in a relationship. Contrary to popular belief, women are actually easy to understand.
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Relationship Advice For Men
1. Cut The Fortune Cookie Advice
Do these sound familiar:
- “Just relax.”
- “It will all work out.”
- “Just breathe.”
When I am mid-panic, I will not “just relax”, thank you very much. It is a dismissive way of communicating, and what we hear is, “Your emotions are inconvenient right now.” So instead ask, “Do you want to talk about what’s on your mind or do you want space?”
2. It Is Not Always About Fixing Things
Let us rant.
As much as we appreciate your advice and solutions, sometimes we just need to blow off steam with our ranting buddy.
Biologically, most men are wired to be more logical than emotional, and I love that for them. However, read the room and gauge your women’s mood. Let her rant and follow that up with a, “Would you like my advice?”
3. Respect Her Boundaries
There is nothing as unattractive as a man who does not understand the meaning of the word no.
No means no.
Not an invitation to persuade her otherwise and make her uncomfortable. This is one of the most important ones on this list of relationship advice for men.
4. Understand Her Cycle
You don’t have to study the entire 28-day hormonal cycle of women. It is complicated and messy. However, there is one key takeaway you need to understand:
- The male hormone, testosterone, is the same every day of the month and is only elevated a smidge in the mornings.
- Female hormones (estrogen, progesterone, FSH, LH, etc) fluctuate every single day for 28 days and then repeat.
The moral of the story: Have compassion, because she will not be the same person every day
5. Be Interested
I cannot emphasize this enough – be interested! My suggestions:
- Listen to her rambling about her hobbies, day, and latest obsession.
- Ask her active questions and engage in conversation.
- Do NOT make her feel like she cannot speak to you about her passions.
There is no feeling comparable to being excited about something, only for your significant other to douse the flame.
6. Pick The Date
Dates do not have to be expensive or grand. A movie at home is just fine. But, please, don’t let her always decide what to do or where to go. Take leadership.
We want to get into a car and go to a restaurant without having to pick said restaurant in the passenger seat. It really is that easy to please us.
7. Let’s Talk Compliments
I have two things to say here.
Firstly, do not let her drag compliments out of you. It takes 5 seconds of your day to give her a heartfelt compliment. You will be surprised how insecure some women can get if they don’t get this kind of reassurance from their partners.
Secondly, rewrite your generic compliments. I can guarantee you will make her heart flutter if you put in a little effort behind your words.
How do you do that? The easiest way to do this is to add a description. So, when you compliment her eyes, add descriptions of how they look or how they make you feel. Here are some examples:
- “Your eyes remind me of a forest.”
- “You have a beautiful soul.”
- “Your smile is so infectious, it brightens my whole day.”
- “Your voice is mesmerizing.”
8. Small Gestures Are Key
There is a time and place for huge romantic gestures, but the small stuff? Yeah, that will get her heart going. What am I talking about?
- Put a glass of water for her on the bedside table.
- Tuck a strand of hair behind her ear.
- Kiss het goodbye and hello every single day.
- Give her your jacket when it is cold.
- Take her shoes off after a night out.
- Make her coffee in the morning.
- Run the bath for her.
- And the list goes on.
Never stop courting your girl. The small things will make a huge difference in your relationship.
9. What Do You Say In Group Settings
What you might perceive as an innocent joke with friends can make her feel insecure and uncomfortable. You are a team, and it is your responsibility not to embarrass her with foul language or sly comments.
Talk highly of your girl even when – no, especially when you are surrounded by testosterone. Treat her like your queen, and she will treat you like her king.
10. Read Her Favorite Books
If she loves fantasy and romance novels, she is most probably a hopeless romantic. Those brooding, shadow-wielding, emotionally available men she is sighing over? They are not just fictional; they are intentional. Written by women, for women.
You’ll be surprised how much more you’ll learn from Johnny Kavanaugh than any dating guru on YouTube.
Conclusion
The crux of the message is to be intentional. Use these 10 pieces of relationship advice for men to make your lady swoon and fall even deeper in love with you.
Ladies, watch this space, because your turn is coming soon!
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Love, Steph ♥
